Couples, Marriage, & Premarital Therapy

read moreAddressing and correcting problems through couples therapy or individual counseling takes guts. It's perfectly normal to be hesitant about the idea of seeking help, but don't let that hold you back. My job is to make you feel comfortable! Together we'll set goals that will allow us to efficiently navigate issues that hurt or hold you back, so you can conquer them and move on. There are many reason why couples or individuals seek out therapy. In the end, all relationships take hard work every single day.

read moreAt Estes Therapy, we understand that each client walks into our office with a different experience and background, and the same is true of our therapist team. We're not a "one size fits all" practice. Our MFT-licensed therapists and Associate Marriage and Family Therapists are all excellent at what they do, but finding a good personality match between you and your counselor is the best way to help you achieve permanent, positive change. My name is Bonnie Cardillo, my pronouns are she/her/hers, and I'm a third-year graduate trainee at the University of San Diego.

read moreMost people whose marriage ends in divorce is because they have tried so hard and couldn't get things to work. Some people burn out, lose the connection, and the attachment cord is cut. Others have been so hurt by massive amounts of injuries that the wounds were too great to sort out. Or better yet, couples sought out counseling when it was "too little too late." If you are currently going through or recovering from a divorce, this can be a hard time. Coming to terms with the relationship, saying good bye, handling the financial blows, or sorting out the emotions after the nasty divorce doesn't have to keep you in the dark place.

read moreI provide coaching and counseling services in San Diego for both individuals and couples, and am experienced in dealing with all types of relationship issues. Whether you are single, engaged, married or divorced, I can help you deal with anxiety, mistrust, anger, depression, communication issues, low self-esteem, and more. Together we'll find ways to help you feel happier and more hopeful! Browse around and see which counseling service will work for your needs. Get the tools you need to feel better and be in control.

read moreOur methods of individual therapy are pretty simple. We'll focus on the issues that are preventing you from making positive changes, working to help you strengthen your attachments to your loved ones and improve your self esteem. Whether it's in your relationships, your work, or your personal happiness, together we can make changes that will improve your quality of life. Our therapists want you to walk away with your toolbox filled. You'll get practical and emotional tools to increase your confidence, decrease your anxiety, and begin enjoying yourself again.

read moreThere is research that ranks divorce as one of the most stressful life events, second only to loosing a long term spouse or life partner to death. The end of a relationship can feel like the end of life as you knew it. It is common to experience a sense of chaos, a lack of control over your own path. There are different circumstances that will impact how you experience divorce; the length of the marriage, whether there are children from the relationship, the reason for the relationship ending, if you are the one who is making the decision to end it, whether it was unexpected or the divorce is coming after many years of the couple experiencing ongoing struggles in the relationship.

read moreThis is such a happy and exciting time for you and your relationship. And while the last thing most couples may consider is premarital counseling, it really should be one of the first. Many couples tend to hyper-focus on the wedding, which can backfire and cause disagreements, distance, and fear. As a San Diego relationship therapist who focuses on couples counseling, I can help you use the engagement to grow closer to one another, work as a team, and enjoy each moment leading up to the big day and beyond.

read moreLife is hard. We all go through things that leave an imprint on us. From our relationships with our parents to break-ups to financial hardship to systemic oppression, what we experience leaves us changed. When what we go through is stressful - it leaves trauma. Which we often call baggage. Sometimes it can be hard to identify what you're feeling. You can tell something is up but you don't quite know why. This can lead us into a heightened state, and sometimes with no resolution. Emotions are strongly connected to physical sensations and learning to be able to listen to your body will help you better name and understand your emotions, and ultimately better understand yourself.